Rich (my step-dad) has been talking with others who have lost loved ones to cancer, trying to figure out what to expect. And when to expect it.
It seems common for people in my mom’s condition to stop eating. Entirely.
After which they last about 10 days.
My mom stopped eating on Thursday.
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So I think I’m cancelling my trip to Niagara Falls. There are other marathons. And I WILL run one. Just not this weekend.
Maybe this is why my passport hasn’t come yet.
(Watch, it’ll come tomorrow. Then I’ll be all confused.)
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She’s afraid to go to sleep. Because of what the nurse said. That she might not wake up. She won’t even lay down. She sits. And she walks.
It takes two people to hold her up and guide her around the kitchen and living room a few times before heading back to the couch. And then she wants to get up and go again. She’s used to being so strong. So independent. So mobile.
Just a week ago, she was walking by herself. A month ago, she was picking pears with me. Two months ago, we thought we were winning.
And now it appears we have less than 10 days.
We are praying with you for the peace your mom needs… it will come. In my experience, as you well know, God is never too early, never too late, but always ALWAYS in time.
I agree about the marathon. There will be others. You have years to do that.
This takes preference. Be strong!! Be the peace and courage and tower of strength your mom needs now, more than ever!
I’m so sorry! I watched this with my grandfather. It is hard. You are right, there are plenty of marathons you can run. Right now you need to be with your mom as much as possible. That you will never regret.
I think you’re making the right choice, to stay home. I wasn’t able to be around when my grandfather passed away a few months ago, but he stopped eating about a week before he died too. I feel so so sad for you… Praying for strength for you like you’ve never known before.
Praying that you and your family feel God’s peace!
praying for you
I am so sorry you and your mother are going through this. My mother died from cancer. I share this story in hopes that it may help you. I was told by others that loved ones may wait for your permission to go. That moment came for my mom. It was time. I reassured her that we, my 5 brothers and I, were together and we were okay. If she needed to leave we knew she loved us and we wanted her to be pain free and in peace with our Father In Heaven. She released that pain a few hours later. I will pray for you.
Oh Beth, my heart breaks for your family. I pray a wave of peace and comfort cover you all.
I know it is so hard – there aren’t even words to describe how devastating it is to watch your mom in these last days. To see one’s independent, strong mom so weakened is impossibly difficult. May Jesus’ comfort be with you and your mom and your family.
I was reading this and I thought of you. It’s a comforting message. http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/10/18/o.end.of.life/index.html?hpt=C2
After being with my brother last spring when he passed on, I agree that being there for your mom is where you need to be. You can run a marathon next year in her memory. Hugs my dear friend, and prayers for peace for all of you. Please know we’ll be there for you when you need us. We love you.